Dinner For Six | Adventuresome Dinners for Single Professionals

ARRANGING A DINNER

Each week please call or e-mail your available dates for the following week by mid-day, Monday.  A reminder e-mail is sent on the weekend before the dinner.

We will confirm that you are still available for a specific date.  Once you have confirmed the date, along with other members, dinners will be arranged.  You will then be contacted at least 24hrs before the dinner with the dinner details.

“Dinner Invites” are e-mailed on weekend for the following week.

“Dinner Confirmations” are emailed for a Thursday dinner by mid-afternoon on Tuesday.  Friday and Saturday confirmations are emailed mid-afternoon on Wednesday.  After members have confirmed, the details are arranged and sent to you.

“Dinner Not Available” are e-mailed the day after a “Dinner Confirmation” is sent.  We need to wait for members to confirm their dinners, if a member has not confirmed, we may need to put you into a non confirmed spot which delays us in sending a “Dinner Not Available” until the next day. 

“Dinner Details” are emailed no later than noon the day before the dinner.  If you do not receive your details before 4PM the day before your dinner please call – emails do get miss-directed.  Details include:  restaurant name, address, phone, driving directions, parking hints, fist name of dinner mates and host.

Voice mail is checked at noon on Saturday.

YOU MAY NOT GET INTO A DINNER BECAUSE:

1. Dinner mates responded too late.
2. Occasionally if you attended a dinner the week before, another dinner mate may be given a priority.
3. Dinner mates in the preferred age group or gender may not be available.
4. You may have met too many of the same dinner mates recently. 

A DINNER GETS CANCELLED AFTER YOU WERE SENT A CONFIRMATION

Dinner mates may have cancelled a confirmation and we were not able to find a replacement.  (One of the reasons we have cancellation fees)

IF YOU NEED TO CANCEL

Please call the office 48 hrs before a Saturday dinner or 36 hrs before a Thursday or Friday dinner to avoid the $35 Cancellation Fee.  If you have a last minute emergency please call both the office and restaurant to avoid the “no show – no call” $50 fee.  If the weather is extreme and you don’t feel safe to drive, please call both the office and restaurant and you will not be charged – if you call.

DINNERMATE SELECTION

Dinner mate selection is complex.  As members are selected for a particular dinner, members’ schedules change, changing the make-up of a particular dinner.  If there is a last minute cancellation we try to fill the spot with a member who is available and whose profile comes close to fitting the group.  This may be someone that you may have met recently. To help eliminate last minute cancellations there is a $35 cancellation fee.

GROUP EVENTS

GROUP EVENTS are held in addition to weekly dinners.  Non-members may attend two events.  Non-members may be placed on a wait-list.  Non-members pay non-member prices, after 2 events the non-members event fee jumps to $50.  If you or a non-member cancels an event after the RSVP you will be charged the full amount of the event.

REQUESTING A REPEAT DINNER

You may request a repeat dinner.  Repeats can take a while in order to meet yours and their schedules.

You may also request NOT to have repeat dinner with a dinner mate.  However, you must give us that information ahead of time.  If you cancel a dinner because you don’t want to repeat with someone and hadn’t given us the information, we will need to charge you the cancellation fee.

REQUESTING A MEMBER’S INFORMATION

You may request a member’s information from us; however we will not give you any information until we get the approval from the member.

DINNERMATES

DINNER FOR SIX is a social club.  Dinners are arranged based on the information provided in the Profiles.  Members may appear younger or older than their chronological age.  Members may express a different view of their interests than you do.  Again we are not matchmakers.  You can tell us what works and what doesn’t work and we will do our best to accommodate you.  Remember, not only are you meeting other members, but by developing friendships you can meet members’ friends as well.  Our goal is to try to introduce you to two new members of opposite sex at your dinners, occasionally one member may be just outside your age group.

RUNNING LATE TO A DINNER

If you are running more than a few minutes late, please call the restaurant.  You may try calling the office number as it may be forward.

LAST MINUTE CANCELATIONS OR EMERGENCIES

Please call both the office and the restaurant.

WEBSITE

Please check the calendar on the web site.  It usually contains more information and is updated on a regular basis.  We e-mail group events. 

E-MAIL ATTACHMENTS

DINNER FOR SIX DOES NOT send unsolicited attachments – please do not open an attachment unless you have requested something from us. Please remember there are a lot of scams on the internet.  Please do not send us a complete credit card number and talk with us anytime you think there is something questionable.

TIPS FOR STARTING OFF RIGHT, PROPER INTRODUCTIONS

First impressions begin with the introduction; how you greet someone can help determine where the relationship will go.  Here are some helpful hints: 

1. Smile.
2. Make a point of standing tall and confident.
3. Give a firm, solid, warm handshake.
4. Make eye contact.
5. Have a positive attitude.
6. Never pronounce a person’s name differently that they state it to be.  When you are introduced, don’t assume that you can use a nickname, i.e. Jim for James, Bob for Robert, Deb for Debra, etc.
7. If you forget someone’s name, as you are about to introduce them, turn to that person and say, “It’s been one of those days.  Please remind me of your name.”  The important thing is to acknowledge the memory lapse quickly and graciously so that the introduction can proceed.
8. If you didn’t catch the person’s name, ask immediately, “I’m sorry; I didn’t catch your name.”  If you’re unsure of the pronunciation, ask them to please repeat it. 

CONVERSATION DO’S & DON’TS FOR SUCCESSFUL DINING EXPERIENCES - By Sandra Segal, MBA, Etiquette Consultant.

Conversation with five people you don’t know can be frightening.  Here are a few tips to help you create fun, humorous and enjoyable conversations.

• Other people are just as nervous as you.  They may not show it, but somewhere inside they are feeling vulnerable.  Rather than display any outward signs of anxiety, they may cop-an-attitude, be a comedienne, act like the know-it-all, appear aloof or arrogant.
• Small talk is a perfect way to develop conversation.  Small talk is the foundation of relationships.  Without it, the trust that is so vital to good relationships doesn’t develop.
• Keep your self informed.  Be proactive.  Read books, newspapers and magazines.  Want to know what the opposite thinks? Read their magazines.  Develop your interests and your topics of conversation.
• Pretend you are both the host and guest.  As a host your responsibility is to make your guests feel comfortable.  As the guest, your duty is to participate in the conversation.
• Use creative and open-ended questions.  Make a list of topics and questions you can discuss.

What you choose to talk about creates an impression about you, others and DINNER FOR SIX.  Choose your topics wisely!

• Avoid subjects like: religion, sensitive political issues, income, past love interests and relationships, diets, health issues, surgeries, pets or personal tragedies.
• Avoid gender or “ex” bashing.  It shuts down communication, makes others uncomfortable, creates a negative atmosphere and doesn’t make you look good.
• Avoid Gossip.  How would you feel if the gossip was about you?  This doesn’t promote positive interaction.
• Don’t pass on confidential information.
• Don’t get stuck on a topic that excludes others.
• Keep a sense of humor.
• Be genuine and sincere.
• Use common sense.  Don’t say anything about anyone you wouldn’t want said about you.
• Remember, part of good conversation is listening.

MANY OF US HAVE DEVELOPED HABITS THAT WE MAY NEED TO MODIFY.   

USE THESE SUGGESTIONS TO SHARPEN YOUR SKILLS  

• What ever you do, be on time. Being on time is being five minutes early.  You know traffic is a problem.
• Unless your meeting concerns work, keep the discussion about work to a minimum.
• Conversations about past relationship are taboo, especially if you are talking to the opposite sex.
• Unless a friend asks for your help, get togethers should not be therapy sessions.
• Kids are great but keep your discussions about them to a minimum, unless it’s a family event.
• POSITIVE ATTITUDE.  Yeah, we all have days when we have a downer – but no one likes a pill.  

 MANNERS – Once upon a time we were taught simple manners. Men walk on the curbside of the street.

• Men offer to open doors for women.
• Men offer to escort women to their cars.
• Being considerate, includes: listening and not interrupting.  Hearing what the other person has to say.  Being respectful of others and not being judgmental.
• Politics and religion are not everyone’s passion.
• When on a date if you want to look cheap, use coupons.
• Don’t forget to say “Thank-you” whenever anyone has done something for you. 

TIPPING

Don’t be cheap – it makes you look cheap, we recommend you tip 22% especially at a DINNER FOR SIX event.  Remember you are getting a complimentary item and separate checks can be a real pain.  Please don’t forget your cocktail server, especially if the drink is complementary.