Ego wants to be in control
Without controlling our ego, the ego can setup barriers to solving problems in relationships. The ego “wants it way” and often leads us to believe that we cannot change and that we are “right” for wanting our own way.
What is ego?
From our teachings on the ego we know that ego means it is the “I.” in who we are.’ “Ego” is a Latin word meaning “I“, often used in English to mean the “self”, “identity” or other related concepts.’
In this brief blog we’ll explore briefly how ego can hinder us in a personal relationship. Egos have a tendency to setup disagreements. Most of us succumb to the ego more often than we think we do. Most of us are not aware of when we allow ego to take charge.
Hold a relationship together
There are many things that play a part in holding a relationship together. And for as many things that hold a relationship together there are just as many little things that can drive a wedge between partners. Often its a subtle battle of egos with each partner trying to get their way in dominating a discussion or decision. The ego can take control and prevent us from even hearing what our partner is saying. If you are a controlling person then your ego is dominating you and in dominating you you are dominating your partner.
Learn how to manage the ego
This is not a sign of a healthy relationship and in most cases will lead to a down fall of the relationship. On the way to the fall of the relationship verbal or physical abuse may arise. There is disrespect towards the partner and control issues, chances are these control issues will exist outside the relationship. Often professional help is required to understand and teach you how to handle the ego.
If both you and your partner are “healthy” and willing to talk while listening to each other many disagreement can be successfully resolved to the satisfaction of both partners and our “I” or ego no longer blindly dominates us.
If you want your relationship to grow without doubts or trust issues, avoid letting your ego dominate your thinking.
By learning to communicate with each other and talk about the annoying things that nag us in back of our mind we can easily become supportive of each other. The earlier you start communicating with each other, the easier it is to avoid these relationship deal breakers, and the fall of the relationship.
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