Avoid On-line Dating Service Scams: Tips from the BBB

Posted on February 25, 2013 by Robert

Avoid On-line Dating Service Scams: Tips from the BBB

Avoid on-line dating service scams. If you’re seeking true love by using a local or online dating service, the Better Business Bureau (BBB) advises you to be aware of potential scams as well as the pitfalls involved with some online dating services.

Watch out for a dating service that promises you a soul mate

“A Dating service may promise to find your soul mate,” said Claire Rosenzweig, President and CEO of the BBB Serving Metropolitan New York. “While some consumers have found happiness using a dating service, others have been disappointed in the quality of matches or the number of dates they were able to make using the service. And then there are people whose ‘matches’ turned out to be scammers seeking money or personal information that could be used to commit fraud.”

Dating service red flags

When using a dating service, especially online, to find love, BBB warns consumers to beware of the following red flags. You should be suspicious when your new “match”:

Suggests leaving the dating site immediately and use personal email
Expresses feelings of love too quickly
Is unable to meet you in person; makes plans to meet and then cancels due to personal or job problem
Claims to be a U.S. citizen who travels out of the country frequently
After quickly nurturing an emotional relationship, has a sudden emergency which requires your assistance by wiring money. The “emergency” is often related to travel, medical emergencies, hospital bills for a child or other relative, losses from a temporary financial setback or from a mugging or robbery.

Some online profiles link to scammers overseas, which can make it difficult for law enforcement or other agencies to make arrests or recover victims’ money. Do not reveal personally identifiable information that could be used to steal your identity or gain access to financial accounts.

BBB advice on making a dating service work for you

The BBB offers the following advice on matchmaking and online dating services to increase your chances of being lucky in love:

Do your homework. Ask to speak to other members or customers of the service about their experiences. Check a BBB Business Review of the service.
Don’t give in to high-pressure sales tactics. Sales associates may tell you that a low price is only good for that day and ask you to sign a contract immediately. You should read the contract carefully and make sure you understand what you are signing and paying for.
Know how to break up. Consumers should not assume that they will stop being billed once the contract runs out. Many online dating sites automatically renew memberships. Usually you must call the company or send written instructions to avoid being billed again. Another issue to understand is your right to cancel the contract if you are dissatisfied with the company. Read and understand your contract terms cancellation policies before you sign up.

For more tips you can trust, visit www.newyork.bbb.org, and to sign up for our weekly scam alerts, visit https://cbbb.wufoo.com/forms/email-sign-up/.

How long do you wait before dating after divorce?

Posted on February 23, 2013 by Robert

HOW LONG SHOULD YOU WAIT BEFORE DATING AFTER DIVORCE?

In most cases it is considered best to wait before dating after divorce until the divorce is final. There are really no real rules as each person is different and the situation that lead to the divorce varies. You are the only one that knows if you are ready. Everyone from your kids, parents and friends will have opinions. Therapist often recommend, to be alone one year for each of three or four years you were married. Therapists want to know if you have grieved for the relationship and to know that you can be alone before jumping into a relationship, just because you don’t want to be alone. It makes sense to wait until you have recovered from the trauma of your divorce (and possibly the bad relationship that preceded it). How long should you wait to date after a divorce, that’s up to you and where you are in the process.

DATING AFTER DIVORCE, TAKE IT SLOW

If you are immediately looking for a relationship, chances are you haven’t healed yet. Use your time in dating after divorce to explore who you are. Don’t try to find someone too quickly. If you haven’t taken the time you may be blinded and not see the red flags. In dating after divorce, date several people. You don’t want to get caught in a rebound that is not healthy for either of you.

USE A THERAPIST OR SUPPORT GROUP TO HELP YOU HEAL

Find a support group, often you can find a support group that is dealing with dating after a divorce. Get your new life in order, before you look for love again. When you realize that you’re not angry and can remember some of the good times, you will have found the time to date.

WHEN KIDS ARE IN THE PICTURE

If there are children in the picture, they need time to adjust and you need to consider their needs. Children often need a little more time. It is confusing to see their parents move from one relationship to the next. Give them a reasonable time to adapt to the changes. It is important for them to see that life is about happiness and that even when things end, new things come along and we can always strive to enjoy life and be happy.

TRYING OUT BEING ALONE

In order to prepare for dating after divorce, try going out alone. Practice being alone, go to a movie and dinner alone, getting comfortable with being alone will boost your confidence.

PROCEED WITH CAUTION

Do what feels right to you, and with the person it feels right to do it with. You don’t want to find yourself falling for an abuser, alcoholic or a cheat. Watch carefully for red flags, don’t let infatuation cloud your gut feelings. Anyone – single, divorced, widowed – could have one or more of these “fatal flaws” which would make them a bad relationship choice.

You don’t need to not date because you haven’t worked through everything. Keep in mind that any relationship you enter in to may end unpleasantly if you’re less than honest.

Be upfront, you will find others that want to date, but are also just returning to the dating scene and not ready for a serious relationship. These might be the best people to date right now. This may take and adjustment. You want someone that can be honest with you and themselves, and whatever you do, don’t take it as a challenge. Don’t disregard the caution and plow headlong into a relationship. If you do, at least know that this person may not be ready for the same level of relationship that you want. You can make a choice but must accept responsibility for the outcome whether or not it’s the outcome your want.

Healthy men and women are attracted to others who have a vibrant life and who take care of themselves outside and inside. They will only like you more. Always nurture your spirit and do things that give yourself pleasure.

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Dating Advice and Tips

Posted on February 21, 2013 by Robert

Dating Advice and tips

There is a lot of dating advice out there, dating advice varies between age groups and the experience of individuals. If you are just starting there are some basic guidelines. If you have been dating for awhile and you need dating advice then chances are you need to update your perceptions. Those who have been in a long term relationship, need a different guideline.

There are no “hard fast rules,” everyone is different and everyone has different experiences. What works for some people doesn’t work for others. The best advice is common sense, pay attention to what your date has to say, and try to remember what either your mother or grandmother said.

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You could always walk up to an individual and tell them that you are interested them. But there’s a big chance that they may spurn your advances.

Really, if they don’t know you, your chances are slim that they would appreciate the fact that a total stranger is trying to pick them up at work or quite public place. HOWEVER if you are at a single’s event or a “singles bar” your chances are better and if you have joined a singles organization, that is the purpose of being at those places

The best way to ask a girl out, especially if you’re shy and feel uneasy about making a move is to play it slow.

By doing this, you can actually let the girl know you’re interested in her without having to deal with the pressure of asking her out face to face.

Can you fix your relationship? Dinner for Six

Posted on February 20, 2013 by Robert

Is your relationship working?

You don’t want to be in a relationship that isn’t working.

The relationship started off good but over time started losing some of it joy. Few of us have the skills to fix a relationship and all too often we’re not fully aware of what is currently happening in the relationship. When challenges arise we shouldn’t wimp out and hide, we need to address what is going on.

The first question is, if both you and your partner want to save the relationship. Often if you’ve been in a long term relationship there may be denial that there are any problems. However asking each other you’ll see that things can be better. Many relationships deserve to save, others may need to be let go. If there is lack or respect, abuse or mistrust the challenge is going to be much greater. Sometimes you may feel that something is amiss and just needs to be reviewed and looked at deeper. In healing a relationship ask yourself “how have you contributed to the problem, and what do you need to do to fix it so you can start enjoying the relationship again.” This is a question for you, not for the two of you and not for your partner, but for you, once you work with this then the two of you can work together. One of the hardest things to do is to move beyond our egos and let go of blaming each other. We need to remember that we got into this relationship by loving each other in the past and that we should be able to have that again.

Healing your relationship means that you’ll have to review how you’ve contributed to the problem – and what you need to to do fix it. Not what the two of you need to do, or even what your partner should do. Essentially, fixing a bad relationship means reconnecting with yourself.

Few couples can explain what’s wrong with their relationship.

It may be easy to explain what has happened, and what you perceived your partner has contributed. But that doesn’t move you forward. You need to be honest with yourself and see what you have contributed, accept your responsibility and make the changes so it doesn’t happen again. At this point you may want to bring in a therapist or see a relationship coach or find a workshop. This will make the process move much faster. A therapist/coach can help set-up rules and boundaries to help the communication progress.

Accept Responsibility.

Relationships evolve and change with our experiences and as we grow. We forget that we need to work on keeping a relationship fun and exciting. More importantly the relationship needs to be supportive to each of the partners needs. Ask yourself how have you been supporting your partner. Often a conversation about how to support each other can work wonders in starting to get the relationship back on track. You have to really listen and make sure you understand where your partner is coming from and where they want to go. You have to be clear in expressing your needs. And are you willing to make some changes?

What are Your Relationship beliefs?

Most of us we didn’t get a course in “how relationships work.” Our primary example was from our parents and they didn’t have a course either. So we may not have had a good relationship model and our partner’s model is going to be different than ours. This is a good time to find a workshop, (larger churches and MeetUp groups, offer inexpensive programs), therapist or self-help books. Do this as partners and work on the communication aspect of this. If we follow our parents example or some of the TV sitcoms we’re not going to have a good model. Unfortunately we may end up following the wrong rules, myths, preconceived notions or outright falsehoods.

Erase Sabotaging Behaviors

All of us have self-sabotaging behaviors. We often are not aware of how much impact they have on our partner and how devastating they can be on the relationship. These behaviors are often deeply seeded and may take a little digging to get to the root of them, if we can get to the root we can often conquer them. This is another good reason to see a therapist or relationship coach. You need to take these negative behaviors apart and demolish them. Some of these are so automatic we don’t see them until they have pointed out.

In the process of identifying these negative behaviors, they need to be replaced with healthy relationship rules. Again your best bet is seeking professional help. With your partner, write out your goals and the new rules for the kind of healthy relationship you want. You’ve heard it before “relationships take work.” Look at your friends and see who you think has a good relationship, you may be able to ask them how they make their relationship work. Chances are if you get through this challenge, you’ll have a healthy relationship that can last for years.

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How do you build a healthy relationship?

Posted on February 20, 2013 by Robert

How do you build a healthy relationship?

What is a healthy relationship? We all know there are far too many unhealthy relationships, most of those started for the wrong reasons. Many of us don’t know what a healthy relationship looks like until we gain some maturity in our lives. I’ve been through several relationship and have wondered how I ever got into those. Easy answer, I didn’t know better and I thought anything could be fixed. Not so.

First, let’s assume that you have been dating someone “special” for awhile.The purpose of dating is to get to know someone. If you kept your options open while dating you should have weeded out those that raised red flags.

Guidelines for a healthy relationship includes: A need to have mutual respect and caring for each other. This takes time, patience and communication. When you and your partner see each other as equals, you both should be putting equal effort into the relationship.

Honesty is the cornerstone for a healthy relationship.

The cornerstone for both dating and relationships is honesty, all good relationships are built on trust, if your trust has been misused, you need to move on. Part of being honest is to be blunt about your likes, dislikes and things that could affect the relationship, don’t sugarcoat things from your past.

Express your boundaries

Often your boundaries are going to be tested when you are dating. You know what feels good and what doesn’t feel good for you. Share your boundaries, be blunt, talk about these, include what you will and will not do in the bedroom. Talk about what is acceptable behavior from your partner and what is never acceptable. If you have questions about your boundaries, now is the time to see a therapist, together.

This is a good time for you as a couple to see a relationship coach to go over your relationship, they have check lists for where you are in your relationship and can identity potential concerns now.

A healthy relationship is a serious undertaking

Treat your relationship seriously, you don’t want to be hurting yourself or your partner. Relationship start off with a lot of fun and excitement. They also take work, each of you must be able to give and take equally. Often you’ll have to work on giving and taking, nobody wants to feel that they are being taken advantage. Remember to talk about things, your likes and dislikes may change over time. If something is bothering you talk about it.

You must be serious about keeping the relationship going and exciting.

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Are you ready to have fun and start dating again?

Posted on February 20, 2013 by Robert

Are you ready to start dating again and having fun while doing so?

Have you recently been through a rough time with a relationship break-up or divorce? If you were in a long term relationship it appears to be very scary getting out to start dating again you may need some help.

Start dating again Step1

caucasian couples,females,Fotolia,happy,husbands,males,marriages,people,romances,smiles,wives The first step is to figure if you are ready to start dating again. Some of your friends will tell you to go ahead and others may tell you that you are not ready. If you have kids, they will have an opinion. And if you’ve been to a therapist they may have a different view. Your parents will have an opinion. The only person that knows is yourself, and even then you may not be sure. And how you start dating will make a difference. You are going to facing some rejection and awkward moments.

Where do you find people to start dating?

A good option is to join organizations. Look at social clubs, churches, MeetUp Groups, you might try an on-line service (or at least look at the process even if you don’t sign up for a date) or cut to the chase and join a dating service. The advantage with a dating service is that you know members are generally more serious in looking for quality people who are ready to date and maybe form a relationship. Take the time to figure out what you want to get out of dating, be honest with yourself and your date. You don’t want to be wasting your time or theirs if there is no interest. The general rule is the purpose of the first couple of dates is to get to know the other person.

Awkward moments and rejection when you start dating.

There will be awkward moments in meeting new people and there is always the possibility of rejection, even if a date hasn’t been made. Can you handle rejection? Don’t blame yourself if the date doesn’t go well and be persistent, it is only a date.

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Be safe especially on the first date.

If you are going on your first date and don’t know the individual, each of you should provide your own transportation. It’s safer, and if a date is not going well and one of you needs to end the date you don’t want to be stuck in their car.

Have fun with dating

Have fun with dating, even if you don’t make the big connection, the purpose of dating is to get to know others, even if it is just for a friendship, who may be able to introduce you to others. Treat dating as a learning experience.

Denver single professionals – giving compliments

Posted on February 2, 2013 by Robert

Say something nice to your relationships – make giving compliments part of your everyday speech.

Do you pay your relationship or dates compliments every day? Give it a try. And instead of compliments on how they look or what they are wearing trying using compliments on something they do, especially if they do you favor. Make sure the compliments are sincere. I mentioned in an earlier post that pretty women always get compliments on their looks, if you give a compliment on what they do, these will stand out more and be remembered more than who they look. Yes guys like to receive compliments also.

You heard me talk about not letting egos dominate a relationship. Egos are very tricky to work with. Some people think that’s giving a compliment is giving away power, if you think that is the case you need to check your ego. There is a great deal of respect that can be given when you notice little things (or big things) that your relationship does to make you feel good.

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Be sure to check out our dating and relationship tips as we take you through this confusing world of dating and relating. Often you’ll hear that there are “new rules,” don’t get caught up with that. Sure dating and relating rules appear to have change, but in the end every one is different, common sense and being courteous dominate over any new rules. A quick little remember is to remember what your mother told you. And what works for some dates will not work for other people, listen and pay attention to what your date/relationship is telling you, if you listen well, they will tell you what works best for them,