If you want your first date to turn into a second date or beyond, you need to avoid these ten dating mistakes. Some are specifically first date mistakes while some are dating errors that can occur at any point in a relationship.

#1 – Being boring or no fun. If your date is not having fun, they’ll be a lot less likely to want to go out on another date with you. Make sure that your conversation is enjoyable for your date – don’t make it all about you, and avoid any topics that seem to make your date uncomfortable. If you planned an activity date and the activity turns out to be no fun for your date, switch to a backup activity.

#2 – Being cheap. Men should pay for drinks and offer to pay for dinner. Women can offer to get the second round of drinks or pick up their half of the meal. If they allow the man to pay for the meal, they should order conservatively rather than ordering multiple appetizers and the most expensive entree. Neither person should use coupons or discount points to pay for the date unless it has been previously arranged, such as proposing a Groupon offer when discussing what to do for the date. Avoid taking home a doggie bag, unless you are actually giving it to the dog, and you spent much of your date discussing that dog.

#3 – Being touchy. Men should avoid putting their hands on their date except for shaking hands when meeting, helping your date into or out of your car, and offering an arm if it is slippery out. Women should avoid touching anything other than their date’s hands or arm with anything other than their hand. Dates can close with a hug or light kiss, depending on what’s appropriate for the situation.

#4 – Being a heavy drinker. The goal of the date is to learn more about the person you’re with, and if you drink heavily, odds are pretty good you won’t like what your date is learning about you. Your date may also legitimately fear that you won’t remember anything you learn about them.

#5 – Being on the make. Hopefully your date put quite a bit of attention into their appearance, and you want to acknowledge that. What you don’t want to do is make it appear that you’re checking out your date’s physical attributes with an eye toward enjoying them later on. Stick with non-threatening compliments such as “You look great” or “You look so stylish” as opposed to “You look hot” or “That outfit really shows off your fill-in-the-blank”.

#6 – Being stuck in the past. Don’t complain about your last relationship and how badly it ended, or bring up all the bad dates you’ve had before. Even if your dates from hell make for entertaining stories, save them for a future point in the relationship when your date will not worry about becoming a story for your next date. Show that you are well-adjusted and ready to move forward by focusing on the present and the future.

#7 – Being anti-opposite-sex. Don’t make your date prove to you that they’re not just like all the others of their gender. It makes you look weak, and the potential relationship look like far too much work.

#8 – Being crass or rude. This is not beers with the guys while watching the game, or a girls night out to dish details of your love lives. If you wouldn’t say it to your mother (or grandmother), don’t say it to your date.

#9 – Being desperate. Don’t be so desperate for your date’s approval that you agree with whatever they say and do everything they want. This makes you look weak and is a major turnoff.

#10 – Being overly eager. Overly eager first date mistakes include dates who talk about having sex or discuss their ideal wedding or family size. Even if you avoid this at the first date, you can make these dating mistakes by rushing the relationship faster than your date is comfortable with.